So you’re freaking out a little bit about spending the holidays with your B.F.’s family for the first time. What kind of gift do you bring? Where do you sit at the dining room table? What do you say when grandma starts asking about the wedding and grandkids? But most importantly…eek! What do you wear?

While we can’t help too much with the first few questions (although our default responses would be a nice a bottle of champagne, wherever there’s an open seat after everyone else has sat down, and smile and nod until someone comes to save you), but in terms of what to wear, the key is to look feminine, youthful and understated. Here are five family holiday past-times and five outfits you’ll need to be packed and ready for!

Formal family dinner
While breaking bread with the fam, wear something classic and pretty. We think this gorgeous Chloe and Reese strapless dress topped with a luxe cashmere cardi and a great pair of pumps would do the trick. $300 – $400 available to order at Chloe and Reese

Night-cap
While welcoming in the New Year with some eggnog and late night karaoke, wear something festive and a little flirty like this Rebecca Taylor Tie Back Blouse paired with a black pencil skirt or a pair of skinny black slacks. $212 available at Shopbop

Story-Telling
While sharing a hot toddy and divulging childhood secrets by the fire, snuggle up to your B.F. in something soft and cozy like this cowl neck sweater dress by Juicy Couture. $198 available at Shopbop

Caroling
As you hit the streets to spread some holiday cheer, you’ll need a coat that will keep you warm and looking chic. We like this playful, plaid, pinched collar peacoat by Searle. $498 available at Searle.

Presents and Pancakes
If breakfast in their jammies is a time-honored family tradition, then you best put away your tattered sweatpants and be prepared to show up in style. These signature flannel Victoria’s Secret P.J.’s are absolutely adorable and are family appropriate. $29.90 available at Victoria Secrets